The Family Law Attorney's Guide to the Difficult Divorce Client 

$129 USD

A four-part framework for knowing exactly what's stalling her decision, and what to say next.

 

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Clients who present as difficult, stubborn, or resistant during divorce are often highly capable in every other part of their lives, in their careers, their finances, their families.

A stalled decision rarely comes down to the legal merits.

What looks like resistance is often a client still working out who she is and what she actually wants, apart from the marriage, before she can commit to a decision that assumes she already knows.

Re-explaining a decision she already understands doesn't resolve what's actually holding the case up.

 I think this section needs to speak to them more directly 
 

You’ve explained the options to your client. She understands the legal implications. You’ve answered the questions.

And she still can’t make the decision.

The problem may have very little to do with whether she understands your advice.

The Four Pillars Framework gives you a practical way to identify what is actually holding up the decision, so you know where to take the conversation next.

In This Course You'll Learn

  1. Why capable, intelligent women can present as difficult or resistant clients during divorce, and what's actually going on underneath it.
  2. The Four Pillars Framework: Identity, Self-Advocacy, Financial Security, and Trust, the four things almost always responsible when a client stalls.
  3. Why each pillar matters, and what happens to a case when it's left unaddressed.
  4. How to recognize which pillar is active from what a client says and does in the room.
  5. How to use the framework to move a stalled decision forward, in the same conversation, not weeks later.
  6. How to apply all of this in your very next difficult client conversation.

 

I like this bottom one better!

 By the end of this course, you'll be able to:
— Understand why capable, intelligent women can present as difficult clients during divorce.
— Name which of the Four Pillars, Identity, Self-Advocacy, Financial Security, or Trust, is driving a stalled decision.
— Explain why that pillar matters and what happens to a case when it goes unaddressed.
— Recognize a pillar in real time, from what a client says and does in the room.
— (This seems the same as the last one) Use the framework to move a stalled decision forward in the same conversation.
— Apply everything in this course in your very next difficult client conversation.

Use the framework in difficult client conversations while remaining firmly within the attorney's role.

 

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I LOVE this - I think it goes above the 'by the end of this course' section'. but maybe change 'the exact' question. to just 'the questions'

Four specific reasons clients stall.

Know which one you're dealing with.

Built from a decade of coaching divorced women through exactly this moment, this course gives you the framework for identifying what's behind a stalled decision, what each one sounds like in the room, and the exact question to ask once you know which one you're looking at. Not a guess. A tool you can use in your next difficult conversation.

Stop Guessing

Know why your client is stuck. You will be able to identify exactly what's happening and what to say next.

Move Forward

One question, asked at the right moment, can unstick a decision that's been sitting for weeks.

Advocate Better

Your client knows what she wants. Help it come through clearly, and move forward together. (sometimes she doesn't know - Spend less time repeating legal advice your client already understands and more time addressing what's actually getting in the way.)

Who we are:

Mimi Sullivan

Financial Coach
Co-developer of the Four Pillars Framework. Coaching Essentials Certified Coach through the ICF-accredited Mindset Coach Academy, with a focus on the financial realities of divorce.

Graduate UNC

Carolyn Bilyak

CBT Life Coach · Human Development
Co-developer of the Four Pillars Framework. Coaching Essentials Certified Coach through the ICF-accredited Mindset Coach Academy.

Graduate PSU

Cynthia Von der Lehr

Licensed Clinical Social Worker · 30 Years of Experience
A couples and relationship therapist working with individuals and couples at every stage of a relationship, including separation and divorce.

Graduate UT

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